Last month I shared the wisdom that my mom bestowed upon me and with Father's Day this weekend, I wanted to take the time to share some of the amazing lessons I learned from my dad! My sister and I both have a very close relationship with our dad - we talk every single day, sometimes more than once and it's been like this since I went off to college and don't see it changing for a long time to come!
You can teach yourself anything ||
When we moved to America 26 years ago, the only English my dad spoke was what he heard in the movies and from Beatles songs. To say he wasn't fluent would be an understatement, but he didn't have the opportunity to go to night school because he needed to work to support our family so what he picked up was from co-workers and he learned enough to start his own business. Fast forward to today and he speaks as well as he wants to and believes that anyone that wants to understand him will!
You need to have faith in yourself ||
I honestly cannot remember a time in my life when my dad told me something was out of reach. If it was modeling he drove me to the classes every Sunday, if it was tennis, he took me to all my tournaments - it didn't matter everything was within reach! My dreams could be a reality as long as I had faith in myself. He's one of the most confident people I know and because of that he's instilled the importance of having faith in myself. If I don't believe I can do something, then how will anyone else believe that I could do it? My dad built a business less than five years after moving to America - his faith in his abilities and himself is honestly what propelled him to be an incredible business man and where I get my entrepreneurial spirit!
You should treat your spouse like royalty||
My parents have been married for 40 years and have known each other since the second grade! That's literally almost their entire lives together and for the 28 years that I have witnessed their love, my dad has never once stopped treating my mom like a queen! He's patient, he's kind and he loves showering her with unexpected surprises whether it's bringing lunch to her office or making sure she doesn't have to clean on the weekends. He's the reason I knew what to look for in my husband - any less than what he was wasn't acceptable!
The best investment in life is your family ||
He sent me a text a few days ago and in it was a picture of me and my sister and underneath he wrote - this is my real investment. Everything he put into raising us - from the endless tournaments he drove me to, to the pageants he sat through with my sister - it was worth it to him because our success is truly his success and we are his greatest investment and I think I'll only understand the text he sent me when I have children of my own and see them accomplish their goals.
Take care of your possessions ||
My mom is the bargain hunter, my dad is the investor! He values what he owns from his car to his sunglasses, everything is in pristine condition almost exactly as the day he bought them. I'm trying to get better at taking care of my things because I know they'll last longer if I do. To the same point if you buy something of value that you invest money into, taking care of it also means maintaining it - the piping in one of my bags was coming loose and my dad was almost mortified when he saw me sporting the bag and literally walked me to the store to have them fix it - he said, you paid a lot of money for this, treat it with care!
Never be afraid to ask for something ||
As the saying goes - "the squeaky wheel gets the oil" my dad has the same mentality. If he wants an extra service added to his plan and doesn't think he should pay for it, he will convince them he doesn't need to pay for it and in return will still get the service. I take this wisdom with me for a lot of things, but mostly with work - you can't get what you don't ask for whether it's a new client, project or even a raise - you have to ask and say why you deserve it!
Be Happy ||
Seems simple enough and he tells me this before we hang up every day. Be Happy...for lots of reasons, but he's just a happy go lucky guy and doesn't let things bother him - probably bugs my mom to no end, but he just lets things fly and I wish I inherited this quality from him! Along those lines he always says - "go make your day" and he says it on purpose, for me to make the most of my day, to really get everything I can out of each day and he gets my mornings started on the most positive note!
Taking a word out of my dad's vocabulary - I "cannotbelieveable" I am lucky enough to be your daughter!
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