I've done a lot of reflecting over the last few months as I head into the next decade of my life. While every birthday is a milestone, hey we made it another year in life, 30 has been one that I've been the most fixated on! On the one hand there are certain milestones in life I thought I would have by now and then on the other hand I look back on everything that I have accomplished in my 20's and I'm pretty darn proud! I thought it would be fun to share a few of the things I learned in my 20's!
On Finding Yourself ||
To this day, one of the best experiences of my life was studying abroad in Rome the Summer going into my senior year of college. I made friends from different cities that I still keep in touch with today, I traveled Europe by train, plane & everything in between & I learned so much about myself. Taking that time in your life when your responsibilities are basically getting to class & making good grades is the best time to explore & figure stuff out! There will come a point when you'll have those memories to look back on and you'll wistfully retell all the stories! As much as I like to think that I've "found myself" - I think there have been certain experiences that have given me the opportunity to round myself out and it's ever evolving!
On Taking a Chance ||
The biggest chance I took in my 20's was moving to Boston after graduating from college - without a job & with basically one friend (hi Jess!) - not counting my sister since she's a built in best friend. I had just turned 22 and was seriously scared out of my mind that I would never make it let alone find a job. But I did and here I am 8 years later in a job that I absolutely love, with a side business that I am so incredibly proud of & a blog that I never in my wildest dreams thought I would keep up with for over 3 years! It was a decision that I would make 100 times over if I had to go back and do it all again!
On Aging ||
That picture right there - senior year of college with my bestie Rachel & looking oh so tan! Now we're both on the verge of 30 & she's about to have twins!! The joy's of having a less than packed schedule and a pool in my back yard! So 30 isn't old per se, but I started to really take care of my skin when I hit 25. I've tried to be kind to my skin & I'm so thankful that my sister and mom imparted that wisdom on me - moisturize, don't over pluck those brows & for Pete's sake - don't tug on your skin when taking your makeup off - age and your skin's elasticity will drag it down on it's own! Oh and learn to drink more water - I think I'll always struggle with that! Oh and stop laying out to the point of getting a sun burn!!
On Friends ||
Oh man, I'm not sure what I did in my past life to deserve the wonderful ladies that I have in my life - but the craziest part is that some of friends I've known for 20 years & others I only met two or so years ago. My 20's taught me that it doesn't matter how long you've known someone, when it comes to friendship the more laughs you share, the better! So thankful for these fierce women!
On Grandparents ||
The only regrets I have are things relating to grandmother's - that I didn't call them more in my early 20's when they were still able to really talk to me on the phone and give me advice. I know how lucky I am to have both of them still with us, but I really do wish I would have called them more. They are still healthy (knock on wood) & I'm so excited that I get to see them in April when I go back to Florida for a visit, but it's never truly the same. So if you're in your early 20's or just lucky enough to have your grandparents - call them!
On Parents - specifically mine ||
There will never be two people more in my "corner" than my parents! My 20's taught me that mom is always right & dad is going to be easy going about the decisions you make and guide you in his own way. When people find out how close we are or how often we talk (twice a day with each parent) they give me this sort of confused look, like what can you possibly talk about - it's less about what we talk about and more that we just hear each other's voices & everything is okay! I'd say I'm pretty lucky to have parents that have given me everything necessary in life to "make it," but what they really taught me in my 20's - just go for it. That far fetched idea - try it, that goal I'm striving for - do it and that trip I want to go on- take it!!
On Sisters ||
There really is no bond like that of sisters! I would be lost without my sister - she's my sounding board for nearly everything in life & the one I go to when I need sage advice. She's the one that gave me a place to live (and my BIL being as awesome as he is agreed) when I first moved here without a job & didn't let me take that first job offer just because it was a job offer! We are closer than close - she's my sister & best friend and has taught me that I should forge my own path. As I've gotten older, the advice has shifted and now we're equal - her asking for my advice as much as I ask for hers! She's taught me that "having it all" is not an unattainable goal in life - "all" is a relative term & it's up to you to decide what it really means!
On Love ||
I've loved, I've lost (that's actually an Ellie Goulding lyric) & I've certainly made my fair share of mistakes, but I wouldn't change any of it - well maybe a few dates I would just cancel if given the chance...but it was all part of the growing up process. I entered my 20's as a hopeless romantic and still am! I was lucky to "find" Gary at 23, which is certainly young, but we were in the same place in our lives and it just clicked! If I could go back and tell my younger self anything it would be to do it all the same way - but trust your gut with everyone - there's a reason it's called a gut instinct! When I was in high school I had a boyfriend tell me that fairytales aren't real life & that finding prince charming wouldn't really happen! Nice, huh? Well thankfully I didn't believe him and in my 20's I learned that is absolutely not true - he does exist (as the little chocolate M&M's say) & it's pretty much the best feeling ever when you find that kind of love!
So if you got through all of that....I want to know what you learned about yourself in your 20's?
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